His name is Ricky. I've known him as a friend and boyfriend for the longest time I have ever been with anyone else for all my life. See, I am not a very social person. The friends I make are the ones who are themselves quiet and shy. When they get over that, they make new friends and leave me alone. It has been that way for my whole life since 4th grade. So when I think back on the last year with him, I realize that it is a very long time for someone with my experience with people in general. You hear of all these people who have went threw many first month-length relationships before beginning a long serious one. But I, with no experience prior with relationships or even friends, could find someone who knows and understands me better than anyone else on pretty much the first try.
Ricky's sarcastic, funny, playful, and yet hateful. Anybody who knows him would nod in agreement. You know that one person who is always saying, "That's childish." If he or she was Ricky, they'd say, "That's mature." But that just scratches the surface on how he's sarcastic. He's funny and could take away my boredom with just the things he talks about. There was this one time when he was talking about a live action movie based on Street Fighter and he was telling me how inaccurate it was. He had this long dramatic ranting speech about it, but he wasn't really mad. It was entertaining. He's also got a cruel sense of humor. He liked the episode of South Park where they were making fun of the new Indian Jones movie. It was supposedly so bad that the creators "raped" Indiana Jones. So the episode consisted of a court case concerning people who raping Indiana Jones. To Ricky that was hilarious, but I thought it was little annoying. But if there is one trait that we both share, playfulness would be it. We both draw so we want to see the other's latest sketch. Yet sometimes I don't want to show him mine, so we would go threw this little playful struggle. If he gets a hold of my drawing, he could easily lift his arms up and I wouldn't be able to reach. All he'd have to do is look up to see it, but I would cover his eyes with my hands. Those times are a lot of fun. Neither of us uses bad grammar unintentionally (well most of the time), yet we still have playful speech that is expressed, particularly while texting. People who teach English or who are intelligent speakers would cringe at how we say things sometimes. An example would be "me no know…" and we both know that it is bad grammar, but we are just being playful. Now I don't know anyone who would go around optimistically saying "my boyfriend's so hateful" but I could. I'm not going to sugarcoat him by saying, "Oh, he's so cheerful and happy…" He could not be Ricky without him hating things. I've known people who are much angrier or meaner, but no one who could have such resentment for things without being someone everyone would hate. He'd often ask, "Do you know what I hate…?" and by now, I am pretty sure I could name a lot things he hates. He is never just funny or just hateful, he is usually a good mix of all of these 4 traits all the time, and that makes him significantly different than anyone else I know.
Something that is interesting about Ricky is that he is not just black or just white, or even gray. He has strong sides of him that are black and some that are white. He's got many contrasts to his personality and traits. An example of that would be that he is hateful but still capable of love, which is obvious or else he wouldn't even be in a relationship. Another set of contrasting traits would be humble and arrogant. He is humble in his abilities, yet arrogant about his ideas. Like I said earlier, he likes to draw. But often he says his drawings suck; he even referred to one drawing as "goat feed." I tried to reassure him that it and many others were not bad, I actually think they are worthy for their purpose. I mean that I could imagine them being published as comics. Whether or not he actually believes himself, there is no changing in what he says he thinks. That goes into his sense of arrogance. Sometimes when we get into little debates, he is right. But sometimes he is wrong, and it is so difficult to get him to realize it. You go out your way to practically shove the truth in his face, and yet he may still not believe you. It's hilarious. I remember this one time, he was saying that male bees sting, and I was saying only females sting. Because I am so stubborn and can't just end an argument by saying "you're right" even when I know someone isn't, I looked it up. I found out that female bees sting. Males don't even have stingers. I told him this, but he still didn't believe me. When it comes to things that can't really be proven with fact, we could engage in a debate for a long time, and in the end neither of us would have changed our mind. Luckily, we agree in things that are important and serious.
I would say that Ricky is creative and skilled. He is got many inspirations. A lot of his ideas were inspired by comics, manga, anime and other kinds of visual entertainment, but he could still make those ideas one of his own. Sometimes he'd ask me for advice, or ideas about something he just thought of, because he's always got new ideas. His creative mind is always at work. Actually I think the creativity affects his dreams, because they sound like they are far from reality, and are eventful or maybe life-threatening. But they dangerous in a way that if you see it, it would be like watching an action movie. Like I said earlier, I am not sure if he believes it, but Ricky is a skilled drawer. His style of drawing is a mix of a couple things I've seen, which also adds on to how he's creative. It's like some comic styles, in the sense that they are not often drawn in correct proportions to real people, in his case; they are just really short, with bigger heads. Yet he puts a lot more detail, like that of a more anime style. Ricky says that he based his style on the art style of Dragon Ball, but it is more likely to remind people of The Boondocks art style. But overall, it is style that he made his own, and I don't think I saw anything exactly like it. His style is much different than my own art style but I could still learn from what he puts down on paper.
Ricky is also clean and strong. By clean, I mean he doesn't really use any kind of substances. He'd be clean in the original sense too, but so are a lot of people. I wouldn't mind if he smoked, I'd mind a little more if he drank, but not enough that I wouldn't be with him. But he doesn't do anything like that, which is good because it gives him more a chance for approval from others. Even though I don't need approval for whom I already approved. And it's healthier and there's no chance that he'd smell bad. I'm pretty sure he doesn't use any substances because I remember awhile ago that some of his friends would need him to drive for them. They could ask him because he would not be using anything so he'd be their safe transport home. I'd say he's strong for someone who does nothing to get stronger. He says that he sometimes ends up being stronger than people who work out. This is a good thing, because I am the greatest weakling I know, so he has had chances for displaying this. No one in my immediate family is big unless they are overweight, so they aren't very strong. He's helped carry a mattress and move my desk, (that desk wouldn't move unless my mom and her boyfriend moved it together). He even helped carry this casket that weighed 10 times more than his grandmother weighed.
I don't know exactly why Ricky is the way he is. Though I do remember him saying that profanity was his first language, then he learned sarcasm. Then English. Even if he was joking or being sarcastic or exaggerating a little, that would explain his sarcastic and hateful nature. Ricky is creative because he was always watching cartoons, other shows, and movies. The mental library of all the things he's seen and played is humungous. I never heard of anyone who knew that many titles and I probably only heard of 1 out of 20 of the things he mentions. But that might be an understatement. He might be humble about his abilities because he sometimes compares his work to works of professionals or to people who have had lots of experience and so has unfair criticism for his own. Ricky is skilled because he likes to draw and is always with new ideas. He is strong because he is big, not overweight big, but he looks like he had a lot protein. However he came to be who he is, I think only he himself would know.
Why do I like Ricky? Well the first thing that got me interested in him was when I first saw him. I noticed that he seemed different than everyone else. I don't want to sound mean, but you know those classes that are consumed by mostly idiots, or very loud people who don't really try. There are the ones that ask me what all the answers are and don't even try to understand the subject for himself or herself. But I could tell that he wasn't like that. So in the beginning I was interested in him because he was different from most and more like me. I found out threw conversation that we are a lot alike. So we got a lot in common, but that doesn't explain why I am attracted to his traits. I never had an ideal for the kind of person I want. Out of all the people I had liked, they were either black or white and the ones I decided are not jerks were artists in some way. But that doesn't reflect on anyone I have ever known. My parents are from El Salvador, not white or black. And neither are artists. But Ricky does look like my older brother. They are around the same height, body type, and they even are the angriest males I know, except my brother is much angrier and known to be violent. So perhaps that contributes to my attraction as based on the Imago theory. But other than that, it is the things we have in common, the ways we are similar, and the ways we are opposite that attract me to him. He's got flaws, but most of them make him the better for me.
This relationship I am in is the first one I have been in and it has been longer than most people would last on their first relationships. People as young as me, even him with his first relationships, usually are short lived. I hear of people getting depressed after their first relationship bombs in only a month. It's been a year and I think about how much that whole year alone overbears the events that happened the rest of the 16 years of my life. I don't know how I got so fortunate. How did this work so well and how did I know? Actually, I didn't. I never thought that from the first little exchange of words we had that I would still be with him. I am a little crazy and weird, dramatic, a little slow, and pessimistic. I wonder how he tolerated me. However this came to be, whether it is by fate or by beginner's luck, who knows. Maybe it's because I'm called Lucy and he's Ricky, you know, the same names from I Love Lucy? Oh well, only time will tell.